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Thursday, May 25, 2017
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Living In Maturity


Fun Activities for Grandkid Visits
Read tips from Sara Schwartz,
Managing Editor for,
on how to maker grandkids more comfortable
when they come to visit. 

1. Read a chapter book.
Turn your grandchild’s visits into a special treat — with 
a cliffhanger at the end of each one! Part book club, 
all quality time, reading aloud is an activity you 
can both look forward to. “A Series of Unfortunate 
Events,” “Matilda,” “The Year of Billy Miller,” 
are three fun books to start with. Read a few
chapters every time you’re with your grandkids. If  
they can’t stand to leave the book without finishing it, 
be sure to make time to read it to them over 
the phone, especially if they don’t live nearby. 
This is also an opportunity for you to share the 
books you loved as a child, and for them to show 
you the books that are popular today.
2. Share a fuzzy blanket.
For younger kids, a soft, cuddly blanket can be 
an important tool to help them feel safe and secure. 
Keep the blanket at your place instead of letting 
them take it home, so they can look forward to 
using it only when they are with you.
3. Create a scavenger hunt.
Who doesn’t love a treasure hunt? There are 
lots of ways to carry out this idea, and you 
can customize it to fit your space. Make clues 
and hide them around your room or in social 
areas. The clues can be rhymes or riddles and 
lead to a small prize like candy or a book. Or, 
make a list of items you want kids to find on a 
walk around your room, the hallways or outside, 
if you have pathways on the premise. Then, set 
them on their way with a bag, the list and a pencil. 
Have kids cross off items as they find them.
(You can also do a photo scavenger hunt. Give kids 
a disposable camera or have them use a smartphone, 
and take pictures on the walk of something starting 
with every letter of the alphabet.)
4. Peruse the family photo albums.
Kids of all ages get a kick out of seeing pictures 
of themselves and of their parents when they were 
growing up. Plus, you can take the opportunity to 
teach them more about your life in the process. 
Bonus if you’ve got old tapes or videos and a 
film projector lying around, as you can set out 
some snacks, and have a family movie night.
5. Give each other a manicure.
While you’re at it, how about a manicure and 
new hairstyle, too? Whether the kids are in 
elementary school or teenagers, turning your 
room into a beauty salon is a favorite. 
Stock up on some inexpensive bottles of nail 
polish and a nail file for a few dollars. Then, 
experiment with the different colors. As for 
hairstyles, the ideas are limitless when it comes 
to a hair brush and a few hair bands or barrettes.
6. Hold a talent show.
What grandchild doesn’t like showing off their 
skills, whether it’s doing a cartwheel, telling a 
joke, or singing a song? This can be an opportunity 
to get to know them better, and get some 
good gift ideas for the next holiday season.
 7. Play a card game.
Pick a card game. Any card game. All you need 
is a flat surface and deck of cards for a few 
hours of good, clean fun. Find the rules to all 
your favorite card games here.
8. Start a movie club.
Create a fun routine and an expectation of 
Hollywood thrills by starting a movie-watching 
club with your grandkids. Make a running list 
of movies you both want to see and put it 
on the fridge or somewhere visible to them. 
Then get the popcorn popping in time for 
their arrival. Movies we love: “The Parent Trap (1961),” 
“The Princess Bride (1987),” or any of
these great family films.
Ten Ways to Painlessly Part with Possessons
by Marge Jesberger on Friday, March 14, 2008
This article is courtesy of Mature Living magazine.
What do an old, tin doll house; an empty cardboard box; 
and a 1936 board game have in common? They 
were all sold on eBay®, a popular Internet auction 
site. There is a story behind every item I've 
sold or not sold. More importantly, selling on eBay 
has given me a new philosophy on parting with my possessions.
I would never give up anything that was passed 
down for safekeeping. Family treasures are 
unique, and I am the chosen caretaker until 
they are passed to the next generation. However, 
I recognized that some of my collections, 
purchased at tag sales and flea markets, have 
outlived their usefulness, so I began selling them. 
The Internet auction process became an 
enjoyable hobby and money-maker.
You, too, can become your own auctioneer if 
you follow these 10 simple tips:
1. Set up an account. The initial registration 
takes about 10 minutes. Ask a friend or neighbor — or 
check out a book from the library - to help you begin.
2. Start by selling something you won't miss. 
This gives you a chance to see what sells and 
what doesn't. Something you think is desirable 
might not get any bids, while something you think 
is worthless might prove to be priceless.
 3. Set a limit. Determine the lowest price you 
are willing to take for your collection. If no 
one meets your price, you can still keep the item.
4. Make friends and business contacts through 
e-mail. My "Evening in Paris" perfume reminded 
one buyer of younger, carefree days. I've 
also learned about people's pets and road trips. 
One family wrote, "Thanks for your patience 
in waiting for our payment. A devastating 
tornado just hit our town."
5. Establish a fair price. Click on "Search" 
to discover the condition and price and what 
similar collectibles are going for. It's like 
taking a free appraisal class. Also check bookstores 
and libraries for price guides. After doing your 
research, you can make an educated decision.
6. Be prepared to answer questions. Be 
honest and describe any flaws. Remember 
the tin doll house? One question was, "Does 
it have its original red plastic windows?" My 
response: "What plastic windows?" When I 
looked closer, the indentations were there, 
but the windows were missing.
Another inquirer asked, "Does the 3-D chimney 
go all the way down?" This was a valid question 
because just the tip of the roof line showed 
in the photo.
7. Be flexible. If something doesn't sell in 
one category, try another. For instance, I 
listed a stack of Yosemite National Park souvenir 
cards under "State Parks — Historical." 
When I had no bids, I changed categories 
and I put them under "Photography." They sold!
8. Practically anything sells. Are you wondering 
about that empty cardboard box that once 
held beatnik stationary? The highest bidder, 
a man from Australia, was writing a paper 
on the beatnik culture. The outside of the 
box was filled with illustrations and sayings 
like, "Cool, Man, Cool." So, I packed it up 
and sent it overseas.
9. Learn geography. I read about a man who 
tracked the location of the people who bought 
his collectibles. I put up a large U.S. map 
over a corkboard and place brightly colored 
pins where my buyers live. I've learned a lot 
about America's cities and states.
10. Read all the terms of the sale. To sell 
 my board game, "Finance" (a 1936 precursor 
to "Monopoly"®), I initially chose the real 
estate category, thinking it would appeal to 
agents. Thankfully, I saw the $100 listing 
fee before I pushed the "Submit" button. I 
usually pay fees of 30 cents to $1. I 
switched to the toys and hobbies category.
At first, I had difficulty parting with my 
nut grinder, a "Porgy and Bess" playbill, and 
a Batman plate and mug, but the positive 
feedback from the buyers who purchased my 
mismatched memorabilia have made it all worthwhile. 
My cherished objects are now in the hands and 
hearts of fellow collectors who truly appreciate 
traditions and nostalgia.
Marge Jesberger, from Chicopee, Massachusetts, 
enjoys writing and has been published in several 
magazines. She loves to pass on a little bit of 
history to the next generation, especially
her children and grand children.
Learn to Drop the Worry Habit
by Ed Rowell
Do you ever worry? No, I mean really worry — 
to the point of losing sleep or developing an 
ulcer, a headache, or high blood pressure? 
The word worry comes from an old Anglo-Saxon 
word meaning "to choke" or "to strangle." 
That's an apt description of what worry does to us.
And it not only has physical consequences, 
it has spiritual ones as well. In the end, 
worry won't stretch our savings account or 
keep cancer or job loss at bay. But it will 
sour our mood and eventually stifle our relationship 
with God. Giving up the debilitating influence 
of worry is one big step toward a life well-lived.
Worry types:
Worry is primarily based on fear and uncertainty. 
It's the anxiety caused when we think we might 
lose something important to us. Sometimes it's 
obvious: You're worried about losing your job; 
you're worried about losing a relationship; 
you're worried you're losing your mind. At other 
times, the potential loss is a little trickier to identify: 
You're afraid because you're losing the ability 
to control a situation; you're anxious about the 
future; you're afraid of losing a dream.
Though the roots of worrying are the same, 
worriers come in many shapes and sizes. Some 
are casual worriers to whom worrying is more 
of a hobby. Others have become full-time 
professionals at this deadly game. See if you 
qualify for any of these.
Mayday worriers
Life is full of risks, and weighing risks is an 
important part of decision-making. But scaring 
ourselves by dwelling on remote or unlikely risks 
and anticipating the worst-case scenario in 
every situation is a surefire prescription for 
sleepless nights and anxious days. Mayday worriers 
continually live as if their plane is going down and 
no one is responding on the radio.
Yesterday worriers
These are the people who can't get past their 
mistakes of the past. They suffer from the 
"shoulda-coulda-woulda" syndrome — "I shoulda 
known that would happen." "I coulda prepared 
for that better." "I woulda pursued that other lead."
The events of yesterday can give us the wisdom 
to make better choices today, but none of us 
possess the power to take back a careless word, 
undo a careless act, or unthink a hurtful thought. 
Yesterday worrying is perhaps the most futile category.
Someday worriers
Speculation about what might happen is futile. 
Tomorrow belongs to God. It's completely His, 
with all its possibilities, burdens, perils, promise, 
and potential. It may be ours in time, but for 
right now, it's His. Therefore, there's no 
need for us to worry about what's not even 
ours yet.
Everyday worriers
Some people get trapped in a cycle of worry, 
replaying the same scenario over and over. 
They lie awake all night and literally worry 
themselves sick. For these people, worry 
has moved from a hobby to a full-time occupation.
Drop the worry habit: Creative anxiety
To worry about things we can't change is 
a terrible waste of emotional energy. Rather 
than worry, people who go the distance have 
learned the art of "creative anxiety." While 
worry is destructive, creative anxiety is constructive. 
Worry focuses on the problem; creative 
anxiety focuses on the solution. Worry controls 
us; creative anxiety puts us in control of our emotions.
Here are some ways to drop the worry habit 
and learn new patterns of thinking.
Schedule creative anxiety
Worry creates a false sense of urgency. 
We find freedom from worry, then, by identifying 
that false urgency and making plans to 
consider options and solutions. It's helpful 
to set personal parameters, such as: "I won't 
worry about work on personal time." "I won't 
worry about family when I'm working." "I won't 
worry about unlikely possibilities until they 
become probable." Follow those parameters 
and keep worry in its proper place — and its 
proper perspective.
Think the concern through, then set it aside
Regardless of your profession, you have parts 
of your work that can't be completed in one 
block of time. For instance, a business proposal 
is the result of research, many meetings, 
consultations, and revisions. In the same way, 
acknowledging that you may not solve life's 
great problems in one sitting can be a liberating 
thought. Work it through. Keep track of 
notes and doodles and possible solutions. Then, 
you can park your anxiety with those notes 
until you come back.
Imagine positive possibilities
Creative thinking means postponing judgment on 
an idea for another day. Instead of saying it 
won't work, consider all solutions as possibilities, 
regardless of how far-fetched they may seem. 
Part of what makes creative anxiety work 
is the willingness to look for less-than-obvious solutions.
Give yourself permission to be less than perfect
All of our worries are rooted in fear of loss. 
What many of us fear is losing our inaccurate 
self-portrait of having it all together. 
Perfectionists would rather postpone something 
than see it done less than perfectly. This 
habitual postponement causes great anxiety 
and leads to worrisome habits.

Practice the discipline of submission
Part of our old nature is our desire to control. 
We want to control our circumstances, our 
relationships, and our future. People with a 
high need to control are often labeled "control freaks" 
by those around them. These people are prime 
candidates for worry-rooted disorders because 
so much of life is beyond control. When 
something like cancer, downsizing, or a lawsuit 
occurs, those who need to control go into a tailspin.
Control is at the heart of one of the most 
significant passages in all the New Testament. 
"Your attitude should be the same as that 
of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature 
God, did not consider equality with God 
something to be grasped, but made himself 
nothing, taking the very nature of a 
servant" (Philippians 2:5-7).
Servants are never in control. They are by 
nature submitted to their master. Jesus gave 
up control — of the entire universe — so 
He might please His Father and redeem humankind. 
He never once doubted God's provision. It's 
our doubt that God will provide that keeps 
us from releasing control. When we fully 
understand our relationship to God and assume 
the role of servant, we leave behind the need 
to control and the worry that tags along 
with that need.
Telling yourself not to worry is easy; walking 
it out is much more difficult. But Jesus' 
example proves life doesn't have to grip us 
with anxiety. We can refuse to be surrounded 
by fear and live a worry-free life.
Jesus and worry
Jesus offered help for worriers by reminding 
us of three important truths in Matthew 6:25-34.
We are of infinite worth to God
Here we identify what is perhaps our greatest 
stumbling block. At one time or another, many 
have heard from a parent, sibling, teacher, 
employer, or spouse the messages such as: 
"Can't you do anything right?" "Why can't 
you be more like..." "What's wrong with you 
anyway?" or "I've found someone else" This 
erodes our sense of value.
All creation is of great value to God. His provision 
for even the smallest of His creations — birds 
and flowers — gives us assurance that He will 
not neglect those who have been made in His 
image. The one who knows us best will, in all 
things, guide us toward His preferable future 
for our lives.
Worry is futile
Jesus offers a simple test: Can worry add 
a single hour to your life? No. In fact, worry 
will most likely subtract hours from it instead. 
Worry has no productive value. Worry is an 
indicator of our level of faith and trust in God. 
Whenever we choose to worry about something, 
we are in effect saying, "I'm not sure God 
will do anything about my situation."
Once we identify worry as a lack of trust, 
then we can turn it over to God. Trust for 
faith is the essential ingredient in an authentic 
relationship with Jesus. Putting our future 
in His hands — all of our future — is the 
mark of a Christian.
True wealth can't be held in our hands
A close look at our checkbook and our calendar 
can reveal our true priorities. While our concern 
is almost always for the things of this world, 
our Father's greatest desire is to give us 
Kingdom wealth. When we refocus our vision 
of wealth, we realize the extent to which God 
provides for us, both in this life and in the
life to come. Those things that are of  
ultimate value — our salvation and the lives 
we influence for God's kingdom — can't be 
lost. These are the things thieves can't steal 
and moths can't destroy.